Getting over a break-up, a divorce or unrequited love can be very difficult and it's definitely painful, especially if you are prone to deep feelings and have somewhat a tendency to attach to someone. There is nothing wrong with that, in fact it means you are probably a loyal, deep, sensitive person and, when you find the right partner, these traits will be invaluable.
However, you need to learn that getting over painful love is essential to be a healthy, balanced, happy individual. You need to accept that painful love is not real love but it's rather an obsession. You cannot love someone in a romantic sense when they do not love you. It's an obsession.
The first step in order to get over him or her is
1. Acceptance. You need to accept that it's over. If it's unrequited love, you need to accept that this person is not going to love you. If they have not fallen in love with you already, they will not fall in love with you later on. They are not the right person for you. They are not for you. Accept it. Once you have accepted it, you will feel better, actually, and not worse. Pain comes with the longing, with the clinging on to unrealistic hopes. Once you accept it's not going to happen, you will feel a sudden release, an unburdening, so to speak.
2. Learn to love yourself. Remember that if you start believing in yourself and in the fact that you deserve love, real love, you will automatically learn to move on really quickly when someone does not love you anymore (or when someone does not reciprocate your feelings at all).
3. Then, focus on the future. You need to focus on your future love life; it's as if you were starting to visualize YOUR FUTURE LOVER. It's very effective and it wipes out pain by replacing it with hope and a strategy.
However, you need to learn that getting over painful love is essential to be a healthy, balanced, happy individual. You need to accept that painful love is not real love but it's rather an obsession. You cannot love someone in a romantic sense when they do not love you. It's an obsession.
The first step in order to get over him or her is
1. Acceptance. You need to accept that it's over. If it's unrequited love, you need to accept that this person is not going to love you. If they have not fallen in love with you already, they will not fall in love with you later on. They are not the right person for you. They are not for you. Accept it. Once you have accepted it, you will feel better, actually, and not worse. Pain comes with the longing, with the clinging on to unrealistic hopes. Once you accept it's not going to happen, you will feel a sudden release, an unburdening, so to speak.
2. Learn to love yourself. Remember that if you start believing in yourself and in the fact that you deserve love, real love, you will automatically learn to move on really quickly when someone does not love you anymore (or when someone does not reciprocate your feelings at all).
3. Then, focus on the future. You need to focus on your future love life; it's as if you were starting to visualize YOUR FUTURE LOVER. It's very effective and it wipes out pain by replacing it with hope and a strategy.
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